 We have all noticed when lighting candles, the moment we tip the original flame towards the new to be lit wick, the wax pooling to one side, the flame burns brighter than it did before.
Saying this in a discussion a while back to someone speaking about sharing their talent, sharing their experiences, I was struck by how often we as humans, fear losing what we have gained in offering to share it with others. However if we cannot be hurt by someone without their being a hook within us for them to hold onto, lighting someone's darkness for a small moment can hurt very little, but illuminate and guide in a way we cannot fathom. Gradually I have been learning how to take care of myself, to heal, and see my experiences instead of running from them. This year I have finally begun, with the courage to say no - without explanation. A lesson that has taken year's to make it's mark. So much damage, but the realisation has dawned, I do not and am not obliged to make others feel good about themselves at my expense. It has been a devastating and exhausting few year's, untangling so much. This year I hope in learning to put my self worth into practice I can also let that flame when present to light someone else's way, even if it for a small part of their way. Burn bright, and thank you for all your kind messages.
4 Comments
8/28/2018 18:32:10
Do not feel bad for being the way that you are. The reason why you have forgotten to take care of yourself is because you are too busy taking care of everyone else. I, too, am like that because there are so many people relying on me. Sometimes I feel bad because I barely have time for myself, but I just keep in mind that I am blessed to be able to help the people who need me. I am glad to know that you are taking some time to take care of yourself because it is important to take a break sometimes and have some "me" time.
Dancininshadows
12/21/2018 22:41:44
Thank you so much. I am learning and constantly trying to learn. It is a process I feel.
Tom Venour
9/25/2018 08:00:38
So many are victims of narcissists. Tragic. Very heavy reading indeed. Utterly depressing. I skimmed this. I cannot understand why people would write about such private matters in such a public way. It is undignified and wallows in self pity. Was this revenge? Truth does indeed set us free but could you not simply have kept a private diary?
Dancinginshadows
12/21/2018 22:44:23
This made me laugh, thank you. Leave a Reply. |
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